Without realizing it, we often attach ourselves to our negative experiences. We become so attached to them that we shape our identity from those experiences. In doing so, it becomes impossible for us to move on from the past because we have chosen to interweave our experiences so tightly into our identities. Now, I am sure you’re thinking the same thing I said when I first heard this concept, “Excuse me, but I definitely don’t do that.” But you do. I did too. That’s why the s

Boundaries are great. A quick Google search will result in dozens of inspirational quotes and memes about the importance of setting boundaries – and for good reason. Boundaries serve as basic guidelines that establish how we want to be treated by others. But we can set boundaries all day and still feel like shit at work or in our relationship or with family members. Why? Because we’re forgetting the most important part of boundary setting: ourselves. We are setting boundaries

I am a control freak. Not in the way we usually think about “control freaks.” I don’t care whether you roll up the tube of toothpaste or squeeze it, my silverware has never gone back in the same area of the drawer twice, and although I definitely prefer that you take your shoes off when entering my apartment, it doesn’t really bother me if you choose to keep them on. But when it comes to trying to control every part of my life so that nothing falls apart, I am a full-blown co

“I have no energy to give right now,” I snap as my phone rings. A few minutes later my phone dings, notifying me that I have another email. “Can everyone just give me a freaking break! I just need some alone time,” I continue. I quickly stop myself. “I am so grateful for all the people in my life who love me and who I love back,” I say. But the anger continues to sizzle. “Yeah sure, I’m grateful but…” I attempt to finish my thought but I interrupt myself again before I can co