cake pops and coffee
A New Conversation About Trauma
I started writing this book seven years ago. Whoo! It's been a journey! When I first started working through the sexual abuse I experienced as a child, I looked to books in hopes that someone could teach me. But the only books available about sexual abuse were either psychology books that made me feel like a social experiment or terribly titled self-help books that made me feel like a wounded puppy.
I wanted to read something that felt like I was simply having a conversation with a trusted friend. I wanted to feel like I was talking with someone who was confident and hilarious with a captivating way of naturally inspiring others to live their dreams, laugh, and feel more comfortable with who they are.
She would wear colorful scarves and sit with her legs up on the arms of chairs in the most cool and relaxed way. We’d eat cake pops and drink coffee while we talked casually and openly about the abuse we’ve experienced. We would cry when we needed to and laugh when we wanted to. She would say “Look, I experienced abuse too and I can tell you firsthand that you have everything you need inside you. I hereby bestow upon you all the tools to overcome your abuse and unlock your full potential as the true warrior goddess you are.”
Okay, maybe that’s a little much. Really, I just wanted her to say, “Look, I get how you’re feeling. Try doing this and see if it helps.”
That is what I want my book to be for readers. I want to have a conversation about my experiences navigating the abuse I survived, developing the tools I needed to step into my full-power, and learning to use my experiences of abuse as fuel for that power, not an obstacle against it.
WHAT PEOPLE SAY
Katie has managed to write a book that discusses some of the heaviest things I've ever heard while also being really funny and inviting. I just can't get over that because you need to understand how much skill it takes to accomplish that!
...As a professional counselor, I think this book can be life changing for clients addressing their trauma...
When I started reading Katie’s story, it totally transformed the way I thought about my own. If she can heal and let go of her lifetime of abuse and trauma, maybe I could do it, too. And maybe it doesn’t have to be as scary or painful as I thought. Because I recognize now, with the tools and accounts she shares, that I don’t have to keep reliving it to let go of it.
This book from the very beginning feels like a real conversation between friends. Katie's ability to talk about trauma in such an open and real way is inspiring.
By working in the perfect amount of humor and lightheartedness into each chapter, the author is able to tackle challenging topics and give sage advice to not only survivors, but to supporters of survivors and professionals. This book is a must.
This book is so powerful, presenting techniques not only for those who have experienced trauma survivor but for those of us that need to look more deeply into how our past has shaped us.